What it Takes to Achieve Your Goals? Motivation OR Self-Discipline
As humans, we’re uncomfortable acting at random – we need reasons for doing things. When people act apparently for no reason, we label them as ‘insane’, when in fact their reasons are just different than ours. Motivation turns into action only when the force of our desire to have, be or do something exceeds the force of inertia keeping us where we are.
The starting point of all changes is in the mind and the way you think. All you need to do is improve the quality of your thoughts and you will increase the quality of your life. There are some people who are ‘just motivated’ and others who are ‘just not motivated’. Motivation comes from motive or reason. The more powerful your reasons or motives are to do something, the more motivation you receive to get the task done!
The Pleasure Pain Principle
In fact, the core trigger for human actions is the pleasure pain principle. Human behavior is driven by the need to avoid pain and the desire to feel pleasure. Of these two factors, the strongest is the desire to avoid pain. This is the single strongest driving force in all human behavior! People often attach pain to things that are actually good for them and pleasure to things that are actually bad for them.
Here are two examples:
- People often attach pleasure to smoking, wasting time in front of the TV, gossiping, drinking to excess, spending money before they have earned it and avoiding responsibility.
- People often attach pain to learning, getting up early in the mornings, saving money, going to the doctor or taking tough decisions.
Take some time to think about any areas in your life where you are now connecting pleasure and pain incorrectly. What do you link pleasure to that is holding you back?
Here is how to do it:
- Identify a behavior or attitude that you currently link pleasure or pain to incorrectly. Be completely honest.
- Write down the attitude you want change. For example; “I attach pain to doing more than I am paid to do!” at the top of a page and then write down WHY you attach pain to this behavior. List as many reasons as possible.
- Write down what you think will happen to you ultimately if you continue with this incorrect association. For example, “If I carry on associating pain to doing more than I am paid to, my career is going to be very limited” or “I will never achieve my full potential!”
- Make the reasons as big and powerful as you can. Let your emotions guide you and really feel what you are writing.
- Go back in time to the last day of your working life. Picture yourself as you looked back then – feel the regrets coming from such a shallow career. Maintain this state for as long as you can and allow your emotions to guide you.
- Now, decide that this is never going to happen to you! Make the decision right there to change into the person you want to be.
- Start the change right now.
- Start acting as if this new habit is already a part of you. Be consistent for the next 30 days and it will become a habit!
If you go through all your pleasure and pain associations you will literally transform your life. Motivation is great, but sometimes it’s just not enough. It requires some self-discipline and perseverance to support it, providing the ability to get yourself into action no matter your emotional state.
Nitin Aggarwal is the founder of Offshore Ally- it is a one stop destination for dedicated virtual assistant and SEO link builders. nitin enjoys blogging and learning about the new trends in the Internet marketing industry. Connect with him on Twitter.