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Relocation Advice for Families – Coping With Change

2011 August 27
by Contributor

As we all know, moving can be a stressful time for all people involved. There are all sorts of new worries and concerns. Adults are not the only ones who feel the pressure and stress from moving.

Kids often feel lots of the same tension and stress. Moving can also create all kinds of uncertainties for a child who may not fully understand what is happening.

First, whether you’re moving across town or your company is relocating across country, it’s important to plan ahead and take extra time. If at all possible, it is best to try to ease into this transition slowly. Understand that your child may have lots of questions and concerns. Make yourself available to them to answer their questions or talk about their feelings. While it might be easy to get caught up in everything that is going on, making time to listen and talk with your children is a crucial step that cannot be overlooked.

Some common things that can come up after or during a big move are mood changes and bad behavior in children. This is to be expected.

Children like predictability and routines. Based on the ages of the children, this rebellion or unease can manifest in a variety of ways. You may find that your normally easygoing teenager is suddenly rebellious and argumentative or that your toilet trained 4 year old is suddenly wetting the bed or having accidents.

Change is hard on everyone. It is important to keep calm and upbeat. Let your child feel safe to come to you with questions. Don’t brush off their feelings or tell them that they are unimportant. When your children talk to you, really listen to them. Understand that while you may see some of their worries as trivial or unimportant, realize that your child finds them important.

If there is time before the move, let your child have some input on some of the decisions. Let them pick out their room color or a piece of furniture. Talk with them about things in the area that might be of interest to them. For example, if your child likes to play sports, check into what types of sports and activities their new school has. Making your children feel like they are involved and part of the whole process can go a long way to helping them adjust and feel more comfortable.

A little bit of planning, attention and time can go a long way in helping your family. Just remember to listen and let them be heard. Following these tips can take some of the stress out of relocating and help everyone cope with this big change.

Author Jason Lancaster is working with TRC Global Solutions, a company that helps military families relocate across the U.S. and across the globe.

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14 Responses leave one →
  1. hannamay permalink
    August 31, 2011

    Giving advice like this is really helpful for us… Thank you for sharing this information…

  2. September 1, 2011

    I can very much agree with you on this. Any kind of change is being hard on everyone, especially children, but we, adults can make it easier for them by staying calm and not showing any kind of worries of ours to them.

  3. September 1, 2011

    Our daughter is having some issues with the moving into our new neighbor hood. The stir of the even has seem to thrown her from her routine. We are now on vacation at the beach and letting the stress go from the big event.We will see how things are when we return and get ready for school.

  4. Bernalou permalink
    September 2, 2011

    Great idea, giving advice is very helpful to people that they don’t experience with advising there parents…

  5. laura permalink
    September 6, 2011

    Thanks for the tips. Looks like they worked for you…i haven’t read all the comments but I’m pretty sure that’s been said already.

  6. Dainara permalink
    September 6, 2011

    Seems nice idea shared here, Yes i agree giving advice is really helpful to those people needing advice, most importantly to our children…

  7. Aguilar permalink
    September 8, 2011

    Great ideas!honestly i haven’t finish read and im pretty sure many reader like your post very informative one.

  8. valleyball permalink
    September 14, 2011

    Making your children feel like they are involved and part of the whole process can go a long way to helping them adjust and feel more comfortable. 😛

  9. Rex Boerma permalink
    October 11, 2011

    Yeah. Any kind of change is being hard on everyone, especially children, but we adults can make it easier for them by staying calm and not showing any kind of worries of ours to them.

  10. Suzie permalink
    October 12, 2011

    Nice idea, giving guidance is very caring to people that they don’t experience any from their parents or guardians.…

  11. November 13, 2011

    I think remaining upbeat and doing plenty of planning upfront are key points. It’s also good to research what sort of support you can get once you arrive at your new destination.

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